Abuse is rarely a simple story of cruelty. Often it is also a story of profound deficits — emotional, relational, and moral — that victims are unwittingly recruited to compensate for. When people think about incompetence, they tend to picture...
When someone you love is living with domestic violence, knowing how to respond can feel impossible. Fear, anger, confusion, helplessness, all of it can hit at once. You might want to rush in and fix everything, or you might hold back because you’re...
For a child, safety is what lets everything else settle. Home needs to be knowable, the place you walk into and can predict. Bedtimes that happen at the same hour. Dinner that shows up when it’s supposed to. Mistakes met with care instead of a...